It exceeds 1/4 of the married ones to afraid the extramarital relation question causes extramarital relation type psychological disease to heighten

It exceeds 1/4 of the married ones to afraid the extramarital relation question causes extramarital relation type psychological disease to heighten
Yesterday was " Day of mental hygiene of world " ,Reporter know from the intersection of Nanjing and some professional the intersection of psychological consultation and organization extramarital affair victim become spiritual the intersection of disease and high crowd that take place, mostly women among them, produced depressed anxious mood because of husband's extramarital affair.
According to the investigation, married men and women have 1/4 of the people who worry facing the extramarital relation problem at least, besides demanding about equal cost in family and the society, the tripartite party that the extramarital relation happens is easy to suffer from " Extramarital relation type spiritual disease " . The doctor says, the clinic of psychiatric department finds, the patient coming to see a doctor has increased by thirty percent because the extramarital relation question produces melancholia, anxious disease and sleep disorder recently, worth social masses' noticing. In that eighty-percent diagnose and suffer from melancholia, eighty-percent it have environmental adaptation obstacles that sleep disorder, seventy percent 5, and seventy percent suffer from the anxious disease.
Interview experts: Spirit of department's hospital of the brain of Nanjing is a subject associate professor of treatment Sun Jing
Intervene the centre director in psychological crisis of Nanjing Zhang Chun
Full-time madam
The husband is not fidgety
-Case:
"I have lost one's mind every day now, so long as the husband goes out, I am cranky, any things can not be done, can not fall asleep all night. I will collapse soon. " One full-time madam, take husband to the intersection of brain and the intersection of department and hospital, watch the psychiatric department. The intersection of husband and Mr. Li introduce, oneself whether the intersection of Shenzhen and some company stay the intersection of Nanjing and boss of Branch, often go on business. Began two years ago, originally full-time job at home to look after the son's wife after the son study in the middle school to board at school, the temper becomes irritable.
"She complains a person is too boring at home, I let her look for a job, but look for one or two to be unsatisfied. She to the intersection of work and interest completely, at home, have, surf the Net, engaged in the hygiene every day whole-heartedly later on, the interest, has often phoned me, ask where I am but not either to these gradually, do, with whom stay. So long as be unsatisfied with, she is also noisy when quarrelling. " Mr. Li says, the wife still separates for one or two hours and makes his mobile phone once at the beginning, later on half an hour, 10 minutes, that till now, he does not dare to start the machine outside. Moreover, madam checks his conversation record yet, checks the record of paying by credit card of his bank card, still make a phone call to his friend frequently, even employ the private detective.
-The expert analyzes:
A lot of women look forward to becoming a full-time wife, but the full-time wife has one's own worries. Doctor of the medical psychology dept. of department's hospital of brain of Nanjing, will often meet " madam group " pouring the misery ,The expert says, the full-time madam's ability to tackle adverse circumstance is not so good as professional women far, it is apt to suffer from depression, anxious disease.
Full-time madam is apt to fall into the psychological predicament, the biggest origin lies in the disappearance slowly of their personal value system. A too single one think system make them get many social assessment of fulcrum while being difficult, having no way of perceiving one's own change and growth even more, to some degree, full-time madam is lived by the gentleman, and such single appraisal is extremely apt to cause the psychological unblance. Moreover, because full-time madam economical " depending on " ,Even couple are in more love, it is apt to have the feeling self-humiliation of weak party. Such delicate relation, initiate a great factor which cause psychological disease of contradiction too itself.
In addition, enclose more narrowly, lacks the abundant, profound human communication in human communication of full-time madam. They put on husband and child in too many concerns, too sensitive to the gentleman or child, but stimulate number to the external world. So that reflect in the contacts with outside world that lags behind, self-confidence is weaker and weaker, the serious one may also produce the contacts obstacle.
-Solution:
Full-time madam is not so easy to do, a lot of full-time madam will also complain, oneself meet and send off child, prepare breakfast,lunch and dinner morning and evening, other time sweep the hygiene and look after the old man, sometimes is even busier than to go to work, but still very hollow psychologically. So, before doing full-time madam, assessed one's own personality characteristic carefully first. To full-time madam, don't be negligent of dressing up because of being busy with house work, often study and cultivate one's moral character, refresh one's knowledge, don't be divorced from social development; Train one's own a few hobbies; Firm friend encloses, offer various information and psychology for oneself to support. Certainly, after the child goes to school, say good-bye to the identity of full-time madam, it is a piece of good medicine too to work again, don't waste one's own talent.
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